How Do You Find Yourself Is dedicated to answering the most important question in your life – who you are and what is the purpose of your life?
Do you wonder why is my life so confused? Why am I doing so many things without purpose? Why am I feeling not happy? Why am I always stressed out, angry or have hard times to focus? Are you scanning through tons of information, past emotions and still not seeing what matters?
Why is it so important to find yourself?
If you don’t know who you truly are you will always live a life that you will regret – life with no purpose and no direction. One of the main reasons is that the confusion comes from so many sources that you no longer know if this is you or your living the life of someone else. I see this every day, an increasing number of individuals are being overcome by the anxiety, wondering who they are and how can they find themselves.
Whether you are experiencing panic attacks or a chronic general anxiety, there are many things you can do in order to lessen your symptoms, find the way to yourself and your internal peace.
Many of us believe that work is something many people think that they have to suffer through. They treat it as the ultimate chore, something they can’t avoid. Consider the following statements:
Nobody enjoys work. It’s just something we have to do to survive.
I don’t even know what I’d want to do anyway – how do I find myself?
Well sure I’d love to pursue my dreams, right after I start living off of nothing but candy.
Do any of these apply to you? Do all of them?
Have you asked yourself the question if I don’t know what it is that I’d like to do – how do I find myself?
One thing that all of these questions have in common is that they indicate a lack of direction in life. I don’t say this judgmentally at all – it is unfortunately normal to struggle with figuring out what you want.
So normal in fact, that I decided I needed to investigate. I wanted to begin to see if there was any way to help people who don’t have a clear idea of what they want figure it out. I began to intentionally give people the opportunity to tell their stories, in whatever way they wanted to. I asked questions, and I learned a lot.
A lot I believe could help you, if you are one of those people.
I have been privileged enough to have experienced a lot of success with the people I have spoken with. While I am happy about that, I also feel it’s important to share with more than those I have personally met. That’s why I wrote this book.
How Do You Find Yourself act as a guide through what I have learned and what I can teach you. You’ll be amazed at how familiar some of these passages sound, and when you find the chapter(s) that relate to you – make sure you pay very close attention to the exercises and be honest with yourself.
I have set up the exercises to help you move past the things that have been holding you back. Don’t ignore them. This is going to be at times difficult, but the reward is priceless.
You are not the first person to not know what s/he wants to do with their lives, and you won’t be the last. The good news? There is help, and you are not alone in needing it!
Disclaimer: I don’t think you need some kind of ‘fix’. I don’t think you’re broken. I just think you could use a hand figuring out where did you lost direction and how do you find yourself again.
Too many self help books are entitled “100 ways to a new you”. I don’t think this is the best course of action. You are who you are, and chances are you’re going to stay that way. This guide intends to work with you to help you learn about yourself, not to try to get you to change your identity or be some one you’re not.
Getting excited about the day
One night when I was staying over at a friend’s house, he, myself, and his parents got into a conversation about what makes for a good life. Philosophers have been puzzling over that very question for ages, and it’s a lot harder to define than you may think. My friend’s father however, had it figured out. He said that the good life was about creating a life full of days that, when you lived them, they made you excited to repeat them. I am sure you felt like that in the past. And I know that everybody craves that in some way or another. Whether you think it’s totally unattainable or not, this How Do You Find Yourself guide will help you realize what that good life would mean for you. You will begin to realize that it may not be so unattainable after all, and isn’t life too short not to ‘know’ what you think is that great anyway?
Psychology has always been interested in identifying characteristics of those who seem to be happier than most. If we can identify it, we can achieve it, right? One particular study, done in the 1980s, found that people who reported being happy reported one specific common factor: direction. These people knew what they wanted, and they were well on their way to achieving it.
This is true for all of us, we just don’t like to admit it because then we’d have to look closer at how we’re helping (or not helping) ourselves to reach those goals.
A happy life is a passionate one. This doesn’t mean one filled with multiple relationships, this means a life well lived is a life well loved. I’m not going to be providing you with skill assessments or ‘jobs that fit your personality’ in this guide…I’m going to provide you with directions for figuring out exactly what it is that you love.
Love is the ultimate motivator. It’s why some people are able to take on crazy workloads and remain stress free. When you are doing what you love, it just doesn’t feel like work any more, it feels like what you should be doing.
My goal is to help you find what you love and find the truly yourself. Finding what you love is the ultimate answer to the how do you find yourself question. That’s what I enjoy doing. Don’t be alarmed if you don’t already have an idea, there are all too many people struggling with this same notion. Some people don’t think that they have anything that they love, yet they continue to grow restless and bored at their current jobs. Restlessness is a sign that you don’t think that you’re headed in the right direction in life, and it shouldn’t be ignored. It is a hallmark of the idea of knowing you are not pursuing what you want. The good news?
This means you know what you want somewhere in you!!